Parental Alienation Solutions – Parental Alienation symptoms, info, and how the Parental Alienation Solutions group can help children and parent victims of Parental Alienation.
We all know divorce can be difficult and devastating for children. We assume that the courts try to do what is in the child’s best interest by allowing both loving, fit parents custody. However, what happens when one parent teaches the children to hate or fear the other loving, fit parent?
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There is a serious problem of mental abuse in the US today called Parental Alienation and it is affecting many income levels, from the very wealthy to the very poor. As Dr. Phil and many other national experts have shown, parental alienation occurs when a parent manipulates the mind of a child by getting them to believe lies about a loving parent while using a set of planned strategies — and the assistance of others. These strategies include bad-mouthing the loving parent, filing false allegations against the loving parent, lying to the court and professionals, using monetary rewards to gain the children¹s support etc. Understandably, the sacred parent/child bond is often destroyed and it can be decades before these children, teens, and young adults (hereinafter all referred to as children) communicate with their loving, fit parent again, if at all. As a result, these children are often wrought with psychological problems such as depression, low self-esteem, lack of trust, substance abuse, shame, and more. Many commit suicide, become violent, and are victims of physical and sexual abuse, as experts such as Dallam, Lowenstein have shown.
According to a 2012 RNN-Raycom News Network report, the financial cost of parental alienation to taxpayers is staggering as well. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report shows one year’s worth of new child abuse cases (such as parental alienation) costs U.S. taxpayers $124 billion over the course of the victims’ lifetimes. Sadly, these statistics show that our justice system is failing our children and our society and this abuse will keep repeating until the cycle of parental alienation is resolved.
You may wonder why someone who seems to be a loving parent, a successful professional, and/or an upstanding individual would behave this way. As many parental alienation experts have shown, these parents are actually incapable of loving their children and instead only use them as pawns or objects. They need psychological counseling themselves. These parents commonly create parental alienation so they will be relieved of their child support obligations and can receive other monetary and tax benefits as the custodial parent.
Often the courts do not demand full disclosure of the martial or community assets and income (as my own divorce shows (transcripts and court documents available upon request). This enables a strategizing, shrewd alienating parent to hide assets in offshore accounts and other types of entities, usually with the help of a professional, essentially robbing the loving parent of assets and income that are legally his or hers and perpetrating fraud and perjury upon the court, IRS and possibly others. This is also intentional misrepresentation by this alienating parent, which is tantamount to lying on a loan application or other financial documents.
Millions of children have become brainwashed into believing they must obey this dysfunctional parent for their survival, as they need his or her financial and emotional support. The loving parent, robbed of his/her fair share of the assets and income, cannot support the children or challenge the parental alienation. Consequently, the innocent children are left in the arms of a parent, capable of only using them, not loving them, and having manipulated into believing their loving parent should be hated or feared. How heartbreaking and unjust.
However, this hateful or fearful attitude of the children is exactly what the alienating parent wants. The alienating parent feels that if he/she is getting a divorce, the children must also get divorced and be used as a pawn to control the loving parent and obtain financial benefits. In addition, by having full custody, he or she does not have to co-parent and has total control over the children. Dr. Les Linet, author Stephen Fried and others have shown this parent typically enlists the help of friends, doctors, lawyers, counselors, clergy, judges and others. Knowingly and intentionally aiding a parent in carrying out parental alienation strategies or destroying the sacred parent/child bond is a violation of our laws; specifically; a violation of the fundamental rights and other legal rights of these children, alienated parents, and possibly others.
It is unconscionable that the courts do not recognize parental alienation as a legal cause of action and that there are no legal remedies for these victimized children and alienated parents or sanctions for the alienating parent and those who knowingly and intentionally aids this parent in these parental alienation strategies or in destroying the sacred parent/child relationship.
Bringing awareness to the harms of this horrific behavior will hopefully be the catalyst for instituting legislative and policy changes to end parental alienation as some refer to as legal terrorism. Beginning to recognize parental alienation will bring understanding and hopefully a resolution to help these millions of suffering children and our society. Parental Alienation Solutions can help.
-Sara Hassman, Founder, Parental Alienation Solutions. sara@palienation.org, 949-500-3478, 2160 S Beverly Glen Blvd Los Angeles, CA 90025 – www.palienation.org –
